Pain in kids can show in different ways. Most of the time when a child hurts themselves, you get a great visual by way of screaming and crying. It isn’t always that way though. My younger daughter is the complete opposite, where pain isn’t felt or reacted to in the normal sense. This happens to be the exact same way I deal with pain myself.
Pain is the way the mind and body shows you something is wrong. It is a very important function of the body as sometimes it is the only way we know something happened. I know for myself, it has been a huge struggle throughout my entire life. For the most part pain is not felt, replaced by a burning sensation. Minor bumps etc go un noticed. Major things like broken bones is noticed by the burning feeling and lack of use for the area effected, not pain.
The downfall comes when you really need to know something went wrong. Internal problems, like my gall stones felt like indigestion that wouldn’t go away, turns out my gall bladder needed to be removed. Who knows what else has happened to me over the years that never showed signs.
You would think after all these years doctors would take this serious. That they would listen to what is said as opposed to basing their treatment on a reaction. Well, it’s sad to say that still is not the case.
My younger daughter is just like dad. I had my suspicions early on but didn’t know how close to me she really was. That was until she broke her leg back in 2014. I came home from work and my wife asked me to look at her ankle. There was a little bump and like me she felt burning. She could walk fine and showed no signs of pain. We knew something was off so I took her in to the hospital.
She walked in to the hospital with no problems. When the doctor came, he felt her ankle. There was no wince or pains. My daughter told him certain movements can’t be done and it burns. Then like always comes the ‘on a scale of 1 to 4’ question. My little girl said 0, just like dad.
I was then told it was just a sprain. So here is where dad steps in. No, it isn’t a sprain and my daughter doesn’t feel pain in the normal sense. I was then told that isn’t a thing and she shows no signs of hurting. Well that didn’t sit well. I told him to send her for an x-ray, which he did to shut me up I think. Doesn’t really matter, at least it was happening.
The x-ray came back with a fracture of her growth plate just above her ankle. The doctor was shocked, kept saying she isn’t hurting. I know, like I told you she doesn’t feel pain…
The cast was put on, got our crutches and home we went. This isn’t the only time this has happened while bringing her into a hospital. Every time we get the same reaction. Our family doctor so far is the only one who believes us and will treat her for what she says not the reaction, just like me.
As a result of this, I now teach constantly what she has to look for. You need to be fully aware of your body. Pain, the main sign for the body, isn’t going to be there. For myself, pain gets blocked instantly just like her. She now has to know the other ways the body shows you. For example burning, lack of movement, discomfort (like my gall bladder) swelling and the colour of bruising are some things to watch out for.
It isn’t easy and not this wonderful thing most people think. I mean not feeling pain is nice but trying to figure out when something is wrong can be very tricky and dangerous. We have had to tell her school, any teams she is on and friends parents what to look for. Most importantly, my daughter has to voice her opinion and not to settle. You know your body, not them and dad will always have your back.
I ask you the reader to share this out and help me spread the word about this. More people need to understand this is real and not to pass off what kids say. If you have any questions, please feel free to ask as I could write a novel on this topic.
Thank you for reading.