Being a dad is the greatest thing in the world to me. It has filled me with love and a great sence of belonging. I laugh every day and have never been happier. When I’m not with my family I want nothing more than to get back home.
I always knew I wanted to be a dad and wondered how I would do. Well I still wonder. Am I doing this right. Am I teaching proper. Am I loving enough. The questions you ask yourself are endless. doesn’t matter what people say, you always wonder.
Then you turn around and see your kids. The smiles and the laughter. The sence of accomplishment at every life road crossing. It puts you at ease.
The things I have learned so far can be summed up like this. What you see or read isn’t how you need to be. What you feel and what your kids want in you, is.
I have 3 kids and all 3 learn different. All 3 need different things from me. If I stayed true to the dad books word for word I wouldn’t be doing so well right now. Books and websites are a great source for the basics but it’s not law. I know this is a web site and yes I see the humor in that.
Just be you. That’s all I do. I teach what I have learned throughout my life. I help with problems. I back off when needed too and discipline when required. I always love and support in everything they do. I help them become the best they can be and in return my kids have made me a better man.
Am I perfect, no. Anyone who says they are is lying to you. Put it this way, I have a 17 year old daughter, enough said. She is also the one I second guess myself with the most. But I also see the woman she has become and know I have done a great job.
I know mistakes have been made and more will probably come but my love for my kids will never change. No matter how upset I am with them or how mad at me they are, we all know we are there for each other no matter what.
Me and my oldest can be having the fight of a lifetime over cell phone use and bam! Someones hurt. We both stop, run over, work together, and its like nothing was wrong between us. Knowing we can hash things out and still work together is priceless.
So dads to be, new dads and veteran dads like me, just keep going. Remember to have fun. Be a kid and enjoy everything. This is the best advise I can give. Leave adulthood for a while and bring out your inner child. Play and learn. The bond you create will stand strong even when the going gets tough.
Childhood only lasts so long but fatherhood lasts forever.